2 of my closest friends recently lost father figures. TO lost his grandfather(Who he and his family had lived with since his dad died) 3 weeks ago(12th of April 2017). I’d been to see him at least thrice in the past couple months while he was sick and during my last visit(4 days before), i’d gotten him bananas(his favorite fruit) to try to get him to start eating again.
CE just told me his dad died today. I and his dad had spent many hours talking about a lot of things(we both liked classical music and travelling) and we often had many discussions surrounding those themes. There’s a vinyl record player we bought for him in February sitting in front of my TV. We’d been deliberating on how to get it prepped and delivered to him so he could enjoy listening to his vast collection of records.
Death i guess is a mysterious figure. Someone could be just a phone call away for so long until they’re no longer there. There are a million reasons not to constantly show people you love them as often as possible, and there’s one primary reason to. They could be gone for good at anytime. Pick up your phone and make that call. Agree to disagree and ignore all the trouble they usually bring(obviously if it takes away too much of your peace, you’ll need to prepare for this). People are messy and complicated and stressful( especially me) but if they’re really important, we’ll see through all of that and acknowledge that they love us even if they have the weirdest ways of showing it (Last year, I made some progress doing this with my immediate and extended families, but i’ve relapsed. I need to get back on that train).